I have not come this far to only come this far.

It’s official. I bought singlets and wrestling shoes.

Not for my son, but for me.

“I have not come this far to only come this far”

That seems to be my mantra now. To be honest I am terrified.

  1. Terrified of not making weight.
  2. Terrified of making weight.
  3. Terrified of getting back on the mat.
  4. Terrified of losing.
  5. Terrified of winning.
  6. Terrified of making an ass of myself.
  7. Terrified of being a national champ and/or a world champ.
  8. Terrified of letting everyone that believes in me down.

But when it boils down to it I have to remember to not fear failure, but be terrified of regret.

I have never felt more alive than I have in the last 6 weeks. I was down to roughly 319lbs this past Friday. That’s insane considering I was 350 at the beginning of January and almost 370 last June.

I think the only thing that’s more insane than the fact I have to be 286.6 by March 14th is the fact that I honestly believe I can do it. I am pissed at myself that I am doing it now when I should have never let myself get in this situation. If I had the drive and determination, that I have now, when I was a younger dumber version of me…. I could have been unstoppable.

You have to have a “why”.

When I was younger I allowed myself to fail because my “why” wasn’t big enough.

Your “why” has to be bigger than the excuses you use to allow yourself to fail.

It took me waaaay to long to find my “why”.

The funny thing? My “why” has nothing to do with wrestling and everything to do with “life”.

My “why” is 3 pairs of eyes that look at me everyday when I get home and “hey Dad” me to death about the coolest stuff and the stupidest stuff in the same breath. The 3 pairs of eyes that I have to set an example for that nothing is out of your reach if you just get the damn stool and elevate yourself. The 3 pairs of eyes that I refuse to leave on this earth without a father due to having a heart attack at 45.

It started with me going back to school to better myself. I couldn’t possibly preach, “Go to school and get your college education.” If I did not have mine.

It continues with creating a healthier better version of myself so I can speak to my 13 year old about how he should be more active so he doesn’t wind up like his dad.

Many of us have goals we’re trying to achieve, but the person we are right now is not the person we need to be when we cross the finish line to our dreams.

“Success is found right outside your comfort zone.”

I won’t be the most talented wrestler every time I step on the mat, but I will be the most hungry and that’s what is going to make me the most dangerous.

Remembering Joe Seay

JoeSeaySignedShoes

I was just going through some of my old wrestling stuff. I found my old red/blue reversible lowwwww cut singlet for greco from 1998 😉 and I found my old sz 12 wrestling shoes that I can’t even begin to fit anymore. The reason I have kept onto these 22 year old ADIDAS shoes is because they are very special to me. Both sides of both shoes have been signed by Joe Seay.

My high school coach was a Sunkist Kid and wrestled for him back in the day. We got to go to all kinds of clinics that were ran by him when I lived in Southern Cali. I also have fond memories to going out to eat with Joe and eating at his house from time to time.

My best memory was how he taught legal pain. That’s how I wrestled and how I still wrestle. I make it a point that people I wrestle remember me. He brought me up in front of an entire clinic and put me in a cradle. I was 5’10” 190lbs and 9% body fat and this ~60 year old man put me in a cradle that I COULD NOT get out of. He made me repeat after him before he would release me and he had that cradle so damn tight that I just repeated what I heard without thinking.

So somewhere there is a VHS tape of me being cradled by Joe Seay saying “I. sit. to. pee.”

I love my life.


I am a wrestler

“Anxiousness.

It is manifest in my heartbeat in the long hours and sacred silent minutes before every match. It stabs me like the pangs of hunger during fasts breeding discipline of body, strength of mind, and fortitude of soul.

It’s overcome when I introduce my opponent’s face to the mat, to its texture and smell; softened and intensified over the course of a thousand training sessions and through the absorption of gallons of human sweat.

In the world’s oldest sport, all questions about fear and determination are addressed in the exact moments when in my opponent’s eyes I clearly read that knees – or heart – will fold. They are answered beyond any shadow of doubt when I squeeze the lock and score a fall.

I will not weaken, for the only way I can become a champion is to welcome and endure that which I fear most – the possibility of being beaten – by seasoned teammates one day, and by unknown foes in foreign gyms the next.

After hours, days, and weeks of willing myself into the house of painful repetition, the bruises begin to fade. Quads burn less. Pain enters more slowly as body and mind are hardened, reconstructed, and refined. In the end, stepping out of the circle with arms raised in victory is not about outside obstacles, nameless opponents, or even the taste of my own blood. It’s about confronting my own pain, and through this, exceeding my own potential. It’s about transforming anxiousness into power.

It’s about me.

Family, coaches, teammates: I cherish their support. But on the mat, there are no kinships except with the mat itself.

Here, I must be, more than anything, Out For One.”

*This quote has been borrowed (and edited for grammar) from oldschoolathletics.com It rings true and I thought I had to share it with the world.

"It has never been my object to record my dreams, just the determination to realize them" – Man Ray

I started my journey yesterday. Only about 6 months later than I wanted.

And now?

Now I have to push like I have never pushed before to get to where I want to be in April. I have joined Planet Fitness and will be working out there while I am on my diet. Here is the run-down.

I have figured the calories I need to maintain my weight if I am lightly active (which I will be more active than that).

66 + (6.3 x body eight in lbs) + (12.9 x height in inches) – (6.8 x age in years) = your Base Metabolic Rate

66 + (6.3 x 350) + (12.9 x 72) – (6.8 x 39) = 2934.6

I then multiplied that by 1.375 because I classified myself as “lightly active”.

I need 4035 calories a day to keep my weight the way it is.

That’s ridiculous. I should not have to consume the caloric intake of 2 normal sized people.

I have cut my caloric intake to 1500 calories per day (maybe a few hundred more depending on the day, although I want to be as strict as possible) and plan on working out.

If I am working out regularly and am at a caloric deficit of 2500 calories a day then I should theoretically be losing up to 5lbs a week.

While this is not advised and most in the field of health and fitness will tell you that 2.5 lbs per week is the safe way to lose weight, I do not have the time or luxury. I’ll see how it works and make sure I’m constantly checking in with my Dr.

I will be ultimately figuring out an easily replicable breakfast and lunch and then drinking a meal replacement shake, called Ketond, for dinner.

I will be doing Keto for my diet of choice for the time being. I will also be throwing in a bit of intermittent fasting just to make myself look like a sadist.

No eating after 7pm and I eat my breakfast at 11am.

Day 1
Monday 12/09/2019 – 357lbs

Breakfast (Around 500 cal)

  • 2 slices bacon
  • Half of an Avacado
  • 2 large eggs
  • Around 8oz of Unsweetened Almond Milk

Lunch (500 cal)

  • Soylent Meal Replacement Drink
  • Tahini Bar – Super Seed Sesame Bar (Vanilla)

Dinner (500 cal)

  • Soylent Meal Replacement Drink
  • Tahini Bar – Super Seed Sesame Bar (Vanilla)

Workout

  • Planet Fitness 30 minute Circuit Workout (Included resistance machines that covered the whole body and steps for aerobic exercise).

Day 2
Tuesday December 11, 2019

Breakfast, lunch and dinner are all the same as day 1.

Workout

  • I did not workout today. I will be doing a workout again tomorrow of the same cardio circuit. I have a meeting with a trainer on Friday from planet fitness to help create a workout program to get upper body strength while losing as much weight and toning as much as possible while doing it.

I can not let my procrastination get the best of me.

Here I am, exactly 6 months after talking with my son’s and my wrestling coach. I’ve lost 30lbs. Yay me. Too bad it’s nowhere near where I need to be right now. I am going to have to take drastic measures if I am going to be able to wrestle heavyweight this upcoming March, April and May at 286.5lbs. I weight around 350 right now. Math and the way we lose fat dictates that my life is going to be miserable the next 4 months if I am to be where I want to be.

Back to the whole, “I am wrestling again!” thing.

That’s right, I have started wrestling again. There’s may reasons at 39 years old why I do the things I do. I have a 17 month old boy (yeah I know) and I have to be healthy for him. I do not want to die from a heart attack. I want my son to have a father growing up. I also have a 16 year old that is a hell of a wrestler and I want to be able to roll with him and not be tired after 2 minutes. We make each other better. I make him stronger and he makes me faster.

The next two weeks will be spent finding a gym where I can pay to force myself to work out. In the meantime I have committed to doing something to keep my ass accountable to everyone that believes in me, from my family to my Coach and Team USA member Aaron Johnson. I will be recording my workouts I do in a journal and on here for everyone to see.

This is my journey and I hope you are along for the ride. It will be unadulterated and real. I’m going to be cutting my caloric intake significantly and working out 3-5 times a week or more. I have 4.5 months to reach my goal weight. I don’t know if it’s healthy or not, but neither is the way I’ve been living. I’m not in terrible health yet. My blood pressure is borderline high, my glucose is borderline high, my feet and back hurt.

It’s time I took back my life and make sure I am here for my family for the next 40 years.

Wow, time flies

Here we are. The baby is 10.5 months old and I’ve been at my job for, coincidentally, 10 months. I hate being as busy as I am all the time, but honestly, I’m not sure if I would know what to do if I wasn’t going 100mph all the time. Here are some of the highlights:

  1. I am back in school for my Bachelors degree, which my company will reimburse as I pass my classes. Yay.
  2. Along with that, I am working a 2nd part time job to go along with my full time job so we can make sure everything is covered. Paying for school this semester upfront and every other thing that always seems to appear out of nowhere is taking it’s toll. Maybe 6 weeks of working two jobs and I can back off after we get back from vacation.
  3. My youngest son is getting to the point of almost walking. He’s standing and holding on to everything as he goes around the house and terrorizes every cabinet knob we have. He is also saying Dada, Bubub and Mom-ma.
  4. My wife is as beautiful and awesome as ever. She takes care of the house and holds it down when I am working to provide.
  5. My youngest is still a pain in the butt when it comes to school but he’s so damned smart. He just needs to learn to apply himself and he will grow up to be whatever he wants to be.
  6. My oldest just turned 16 and he’s got the Freestyle and Greco Roman wrestling state tournament coming up. Placing top 3 qualifies him for Nationals and top 2, I believe, qualifies him for team Indiana for Cadet Duals. No matter what he places, I am proud of him. I will touch more on this in my next blog where I talk about his and my journey that we are starting together on.

I wanted to give everyone a glimpse into my life before I actually started blogging about the things I want to. This way you see where my opinions come from and hopefully you enjoy the ride. This blog is going to be going for a while because, after all, it is about the long game.

I plan on blogging about wrestling, finances, health and other things that people can relate to.

Life Begins At The End Of Your Comfort Zone.

Nine months later I get a message from a security recruiter that a company has a security internship available. After some deliberation I made an extremely hard choice and decided to go for it……………..

I go into the interview and I didn’t try to bullshit how much I knew about IT or Cyber Security. I just went in there and answered their questions to the best of my ability. I knew if I could get in the door that I would do really well. I just needed to be in it, day after day.

I went home pleased with how I did. Now, just to hear back. I was scared though, scared I would get the position and scared that I could not take the position because I had mouths, other than my own, to feed at home. I really had no idea what the pay was going to be, but I knew it was an internship, which now-a-days seem to pay but back in the day interns were almost like free child labor to have college interns do the remedial work that companies didn’t want to handle on their own. Whatever it was I knew it wasn’t going to be close to what I was making as a warehouse manager.

I interviewed on Monday and got a call on Friday. The internship was mine if I wanted. The pay was very good for an internship but it was $25k less per year than I was making at the shitty warehouse. I had my wife, 2 older sons and a baby on the way. In fact the baby was coming June 14th and I was here interviewing for this job a month prior. Wracking my brain to figure out what I had to do is an understatement. After talking to my wife we decided that we would do what we had to do in order to make it work. This way I could get into the field I wanted and after a bit of time we’d be far better off than before.

It was hard for 4 months. But my wife and my 2 older sons were great and 100% that support system I have mentioned before. We did what we needed to and cut back where we needed to in order to make sure we were ok. After 4 months I was hired on as a Jr. Information Security Analyst. My boss didn’t want to make me a Jr. but H.R. said I needed a B.S. and a couple certifications. So I’m back in school right now and don’t have long to get my B.S. and then I’ll get moved up. I’m very grateful and life for our family has finally begun.